7 effective Habits!

okaaay. Stop telling me that my blog is dead, bcause i know that. xD I have been too busy with school to update T___T But that's such an excuese right! lol. Seriously, i never knew the O level year was this tough! Okay but anyways enough with the craps. I miss blogging so much, and miss chatting with the NNCB people! Gosh *Tears away. Nostalgia! Okay but school has been rather interesting with their moral value talks and what not, and i have decided to share this with you people because it dosen't only apply to us students but to everyone! You might have heard of this.

The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People!
(Yes, we were taught this in school, lol)

It's actually from a Self-Help book, written by this person called Stephen R.Covey and The book lists seven principles that, if established as habits, are supposed to help a person achieve true interdependent effectiveness. Very deep right!! Haha But let me elaborate, and trust me.Like i did, You will find that somehow these 7 habits are quite true. And it does help.

Habit One: Be Proactive
(Principles of Personal Choice)

You can either be proactive or reactive when it comes to how you respond to certain things. When you are reactive, you blame other people and circumstances for obstacles or problems. Being proactive means taking responsibility for every aspect of your life. Initiative and taking action will then follow. Note: This first habbit is the Key to unlocking the other habbits!

Habit Two: Begin with the End in Mind
(Principles of Personal Vision)

Begin with the End in Mind is about setting long-term goals. Decide where you want to finish and work towards your goal. Where you want to end up. Because life is a race. When you Begin with an end in mind. You are starting yourself off with a goal and the future that you want to end up with. Your future is in your own hands.

Habit Three: Put First Things First
(Priorities)

This habit describes a framework for prioritizing work that is aimed at short-term goals, at the expense of tasks that appear not to be urgent, but are in fact very important. People often do not set their priorities right. What may seem important to them might not be as important. And Vice versa. We need to learn how to prioritize our work and time management would play a key role in this.

Habit Four: Think Win-Win
(Principles of Mutual Benefit)

An attitude whereby mutually beneficial solutions are sought that satisfy the needs of oneself, or, in the case of a conflict, both parties involved. Think positive. And always look on the bright side of life! :D

Habit Five: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood
(Principles of Mutual Understanding)

Always keep in mind that giving out advice before having empathetically understood a person and their situation will likely result in rejection of that advice. Thoroughly reading out your own autobiography will decrease the chance of establishing a working communication.

Habit Six: Synergize
(Principles of Creative Cooperation)

A way of working in teams. Apply effective problem solving. Apply collaborative decision making. Value differences. Build on divergent strengths.It is put forth that when synergy is pursued as a habit, the result of the teamwork will exceed the sum of what each of the members could have achieved on their own. “The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.” Or like they say '' Many heads are better than one'' :)

Habit Seven: Sharpen the Saw
(Principles of Balanced Self-Renewal)

This focuses on balanced self-satisfaction by engaging in carefully selected recreational activities and the need to sharpen ones mind. Set high goals for yourself and constantly try to achieve better and go on to the next level!

I hope you dears found some enlightenment in these seven habits because i did! xD No one is perfect, but these are possible guidelines and vales that are there to guide us to whatever we want in life and our goals. If you found these Habits interesting you might want to also look out on the following books , Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families and The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens. (:


-wiki

2 weeks will be gone really soon.

Nessa will be going on Hiatus for 2 weeks
until January.
& will miss all of you!!
Of course i will come back to blog if whenever possible la!
&I Wana wish you all a very
Merry Christmas & Happy new Year (:


P.s: Mom, dad if you're reading this, thanks for making my life a complete wreck.
''i love you so much for that''! and will remember it always!! You deserve
an award for being the ''MOST Reasonable Parents'' and another award for the being the
''Best-at-Jumping-to-Conclusions-without-getting-your-facts-right-Parents''!!
Thanks baby for always being there for me !
It's always in times like this that i need you the most.
And you were there. Im sorry baby,if you're being
blamed for things that you didnt do by my parents..

Anyways,
Since i might not be blogging for awhile...
I shall take the chance to wish my dear cheez...

Happy 3rd Month Anniversary In Advance!
21.12.08
I love you so very very much baby!
*mwahs!

P.P.S: Im still free to go out, so to bloggers that i know
that needs to contact me, feel free to email me @
venessa_92@hotmail.com
For my contact number, as cheez will be helping me
to check my mail~ ^^

Overprotective parents

Nope, aint no love topic today, but because of some issues, i decided to talk about something some of us had experience / are experiencing,even at the age of 20-25 or maybe older. This is gona be quite a lengthy one!! Overprotective Parents. What they always say, 'we just want the best for you' and that is usually what the parents are actually trying to accomplish. Some parents know where to cut off a child’s limits but some parents go to far and don’t give their children enough privileges. They set super early curfews, dont't allow you to date (when you are actually old enough), Always calling you when you head out, and many more unreasonable rules. So what are the effects of an over protective parent?

Too Sheltered, Not ready for the world
Scenario ONE

Daughter: 'Mom! Dad!,its the holidays, and instead of wasting My time ROTTING at home,i found this awesome job, which pays really well!! *excited!! ' (expectin mom/dad to be HAPPY for her)

Mom/Dad: ' No , you go cancel that job application NOW. We're not allowing you to work,
you either work or study! Your choice. ''

Daughter: ''But its only during the holidays!! I do not wish to do nothing at home, i want to work and earn some form of income for myself! I want to learn, ''

Mom/Dad: ''You dont know what the outside world is like, you are too immature,Now go cancel that job application.''

Well,Overprotection can cause kids to be unready for the real world. When the kids do get out into the real world, they don’t know how to handle it. They sometimes react very seriously. Some have panic attacks and are more likely to have panic disorders when they get older. This is caused by not being able to do things by themselves while they grew up. Their parents are always there making sure they are all right and that they weren’t experiencing any pain or discomfort. When children grow up, they need to make their own mistakes and experience failure a few times. No one is perfect, everyone has to mess up at some point.


Rebellion

Scenario TWO

Daughter: Dad, Mom. Im sixteen now. And there's this certain someone that likes me, and because i respect you, i come forward and ask you for your permission to accept him. He is a nice person, with good education and background. And all of my friend's parents have accepted their son/daughter's other half.

Mom/Dad: No! I dont want you having a boyfriend. You 'friends' are not my children. I. DO. NOT. CARE! You know all along that i have disaproved. NO!

Daughter: But mom, you said i could have a boyfriend at 16. And now you are telling me otherwise? And because i respect you, i come to you. Knowing very well that somehow you will reject, but still.....

Mom/Dad: If you continue with him, i will go LOOK for that boy myself and get him away from you. YOU ARE NOT EVEN TO HAVE, GUY FRIENDS,HEAR ME!?! (friends that are guys!)
Daughter: Not even guy friends?...................




We become rebellious. we get tired of not being able to go with our friends or go places because ''we are too young''. Even though in some case the children are old enough and are capable of making good decision on their own. “We teens NEED to make our own decisions and make our own friends. We even need to do a certain amount of risk-taking. The parents' job is to facilitate these developmental stages, not try to delay or prevent them. I have observed that when parents are overprotective, teens are often over-rebellious.

We then go ahead and become rebellious, we go against their 'absurb rules' and start lying to them. Because we do not want to dissapoint them. AS MUCH as we do not want to lie to them, and AS MUCH as we want to share everything with them and tell them all the awesome things that happened, we CANT! And when they find out, they accuse us and call us LIARS and DO NOT TRUST US ANYMORE! How fair is that?!
ITS NOT LIKE WE ENJOY LYING TO THEM!!! But if we tell them the truth, they would not agree!! So what is the point of telling the truth to them?!? And when you try to talk to them and talk reason out with them, they actually come up with the stupidest reasons ever. ''You're not mature enough '' (when are we ever mature to you guys?) '' you cant go out,6pm its late'' . Any Reason just so You, will actually comply to their rules!

Overly Shy

Scenario THREE

Sarah, is always keeping to herself in school. she has no friends and dare not do anything, because she is always kept away from doing alot of things, because her parent's are afraid that she will get hurt. In other words, no life.

Some children become overly shy. This happens because the children are afraid of people and the real world because they were never given the chance to interact and develop their people skills!!! And they only keep to themselves. Because they are shy and not confident!!!

To Sum Things Up

Sometimes, its NOT good being over protective. Its normal to be protective but not OVER. Parents DO want the best for their children but, they need to understand that sometimes how we act , is not something that we want to do, we do not want to intentionally make them angry or purposely get on their nerves. We are NOT that sadistic!! We love our parents Very much! But,Sometimes i think they should ask themselves why , first before pointing their fingers at their children.

Parents should understand that young people have a right to be heard, but there are effective ways to go about making points and there are ways which are counterproductive. young people who are experiencing "smother love" should study their parents and try to understand their attitudes and motives. These kids should keep the lines of communication open and try to identify the influences which may cause parents to be uptight about some of their choices.

p.s.
What do you think of over protective parents? Comments will be moderated :) But this is only my opnion. Everyone is allowed to express their opinions too!